I'm tired of hearing it as an excuse for violence.
To be angry on behalf of your partner? Very normal and okay. Even commendable.
To attack someone for it? Not okay! And, imo, usually very ego driven.
I think men who do what Smith did are having a strong shame impulse.
It's not "I can't stand to see my wife get insulted."
It's "I can't stand to be the man who lets his wife get insulted."
If I were Jada I would have been deeply hurt by Chris Rock's remark. But i might possibly have been even more embarrassed by Will's behavior.
Here’s something else that is really bothering me. First Serena and Venus get called out by Jane Campion at a recent awards show, and now Will Smith used their family as an excuse for violence. If I remember correctly, they lost a family member to violence and this had to be triggering for them. Let them control their own narrative.
What would you have done? Besides "go to the bar and order a martini" I want you to put on your white hat and be Olivia Pope and FIX IT.
I would have...
Pulled him from the ceremony the moment the slap happened. During commercial brake, he and Jada would have quietly leave and two seat fillers would have gotten the best spots in the house. I would have waited until Best Actor was announced and released a statement as a normal, gracious, and thankful acceptance speech. In this statement, I would not have one OUNCE of reference to the slap, Chris Rock, or anything that occurred that evening. As if he was out of town — sends his regrets, but is thankful. (Does it suck he's waited his whole life for this? Yeah... but also, don't hit people. Now you have to share a lame written-out statement acceptance speech.)
Separately, I would have released a statement that apologized to the academy, to the nominees, the Williams family, and to Rock ofc. I would have made this very heartfelt and made sure it fully accepted responsibility. I would NOT have conflated love with violence. I'd be a dog with the tail between the legs and said something like, "I am embarrassed by my actions tonight. I want to apologize blah blah blah. This is not representative of who I am, which is why I removed myself from the ceremony so it did not damper the evening. I hope to move forward and will continue to reflect on my actions in the coming days."
THIS IS BECAUSE... Will's speech — which will live on forever — will now always be linked to the slap. The question is: Do you want the Slap to be part of the conversation forever, or would you rather just not get to physically accept your Oscar? Personally, from a PR perspective, I think the latter is more ideal. Separating the two instances — the win, and the slap — felt like the only appropriate thing in my mind. I also would make sure there were NO JOKES HAPPENING on social media by anyone with the last name Smith. Jaden, you're grounded.
I'm scared to even say this (I've seen the Beygency SNL skit, so I KNOW THE RISK) but I feel like when Beyonce makes big headlines that she's PERFORMING somewhere, she's always doing it remotely. I don't even think I'd blame COVID for this... and I don't mean to take away from her Art. It's incredible and I could watch her endlessly. Don't get me wrong. But let's not say that Beyonce is performing at the Oscars when she taped something weeks ago and they played it at the top of the broadcast.
Regarding the Oscars open handed slap heard around the world. Chris and Will have already spoken and all is settled.
Didn’t confirmed via Page six at the Vanity Fairs after party
That’s not a problem. That’s over. I can confirm that,” Diddy, 52, told us of the beef without elaborating on further details of how Smith, 53, and Rock, 57, had reconciled. It’s all love,” he added. “They’re brothers.”
I’m inclined to believe it because Diddy, who wants to be referred as brother love, is always trying to be a liaison of peace especially in the Black elite community.
I’m glad that’s over with so we can get back to the memes.
I got pretty damn verklempt watching the Oscar audience use the sign for applause when Troy Kutsor won his Best Supporting Actor Academy Awards. It was a really lovely gesture and felt like a teachable and historic moment.
Will finally issued an apology to Chris Rock:
"Violence in all forms is poisonous and destructive. My behavior at last night's Academy Awards was unacceptable and inexcusable. Jokes at my expense are a part of the job, but a joke about Jada's medical condition was too much for me to bear and I reacted emotionally. I would like to publicly apologize to you, Chris. I was out of line and I was wrong. I am embarrassed and my actions were not indicative of the man I want to be. There is no place for violence in a world of love and kindness."
I THINK he also deleted his comment on his old Instagram about Philly and Baltimore.
Clearly, his PR team is guiding him in the right direction. But I wonder if he’s also privately apologizes to Chris.
But… we have heard a lot from Will and nothing from Chris yet. The ball’s in his court — what should he do now?
My skin has crawled off my skeleton from the entire conversation with Laverne. She's great... but him admiring his daughter while selling her "career" to Hollywood. GAH hated that.
OK, I need to rant about something...
Is there a reason that award shows love to bring out elderly actors/performers who are perhaps not in the best health for A Moment on stage? I love Liza Minnelli so much, don't get me wrong, and I don't want her to NOT be able to have moments like reading Best Picture at the Oscars in 2022. Hell, if anyone has earned it, it's her. But it was really sad and tough to see her that way — I didn't realize that she was using a wheelchair and perhaps struggling with cognition (? - I don't know really what was going on there but she seemed to be having a hard time.)
And this isn't about me, I get it. You're probably like, Bread, deal with it! So you were uncomfy! But no, it's not that. Liza genuinely seemed overwhelmed too! And adding more stress to her doesn't seem like the most productive or helpful thing? I don't know, I just don't get it.
With that said, I thought it was a VERY sweet moment between Gaga and Liza when Gaga leaned over and told her "I got you" and Liza said "I know." It made me tear up actually. Gaga is so good and kind and patient (if you haven't watched her interviews w/ and about Tony Bennett, I highly encourage you do).
What did you think of the moment?