"Defending my wife's honor"

I'm tired of hearing it as an excuse for violence.

To be angry on behalf of your partner? Very normal and okay. Even commendable.

To attack someone for it? Not okay! And, imo, usually very ego driven.

I think men who do what Smith did are having a strong shame impulse.

It's not "I can't stand to see my wife get insulted."

It's "I can't stand to be the man who lets his wife get insulted."

If I were Jada I would have been deeply hurt by Chris Rock's remark. But i might possibly have been even more embarrassed by Will's behavior.