Hi Dr. Rachel! I love the opportunity to get to know a therapist, because I think therapists are so interesting and intelligent, yet, I never get to learn about my therapists as people!

Anyway, I'm curious ... what are some things that people misunderstand about being a sex therapist?

And do you yourself go to therapy?

Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I even dream about him. It was a horribly toxic relationship and I’m very glad we broke up (and I’m happy now with someone else) but obviously, something about him or us stuck with me. Does this mean I’m not over him? Or need more closure?

And I don’t know how to bring it up. I don’t necessarily even miss having sex, but I do miss the intimacy. How should I handle this?

Hi Rachel! Would love some advice. I love my SO to pieces, and he's wonderful, but something has been grating on me lately. Sometimes, when I'm frustrated with something that has nothing to do with him, he has the tendency to try to immediately fix whatever problem I'm having. It's admittedly helpful sometimes, but, other times I'm so exhausted with said problem that him suggesting a fix just makes me even more overwhelmed. Plus, I don't always agree with his POV, and if I don't immediately accept his advice, I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

I am sympathetic to him, because sometimes I do want advice, and other times I don't. So how do I solve this without confusing or offending him?

It's a cruel and manipulative technique used early on in relationships that gives one party a sense of security while the other plans to just ghost. It's been defined as: "Love bombing" refers to behavior patterns where, at the beginning of the relationship, a partner showers the other with over-the-top attention and affection. 

It can be someone who says "I love you" "I'll always be there for you" "You're my soul mate" quickly, confidently, and then poof, disappears. Who showers you with attention and affection. Who seems like the perfect person!

When it happens, it can WRECK self-esteem and leave you absolutely lost, wondering who you can trust, and heartbroken. It can involve ghosting at the end of the short-lived relationship, or just a full cut-off. Neither feels good.

Any advice on how to move on and trust again?

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