Girl, ugh. I'm sorry to hear that it was a toxic relationship. I think you recognizing that + saying you're glad you broke up means you are DEFINITELY over him. That said, something in your life may have triggered the same feeling/response as you had when you were with him, and your subconscious may have awoken and brought him to the forefront in your dreams. The mind is a sneaky bitch like that. I wouldn't read into the HIM, and would think more about what feelings come up with those memories

How long have you been split up? Honestly, even if its years after being with someone they're bound to pop up in our minds every now and then, it's pretty normal tbh. 

I'm not a sex therapist but... I think it's relatively normal. If it was a significant relationship in your life, you won't just wake up one day and have that part of your life erased from your memory. Your brain is a complex organ! As long as you know you don't want to be with him anymore, I think you're good.

BreadPitt said it really well. Our brains are wild... and it's totally normal to think about people who you've had in your life that are still there or aren't. It doesn't mean you want to be with that person. Closure is an inside job, so remind yourself why things ended and orient yourself in the present. You've got this. :)

I even dream about him. It was a horribly toxic relationship and I’m very glad we broke up (and I’m happy now with someone else) but obviously, something about him or us stuck with me. Does this mean I’m not over him? Or need more closure?

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