Traveling with an itinerary lover
So I’m a cap and love an itinerary. My partner is… a Leo, and is more go with the flow. We’ve found traveling to be a huge passion of ours but we approach it from completely different perspectives. I love to come with booked reservations and an itinerary so we are not left without a plan (or a dinner table) and he is like— we’ll figure it out! It drives me INSANE!
Maybe this should be in relationships too but perhaps I’m the OTT one here? Should I chill? Am I saving the vacation? Combo of both?
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So my partner and I are both planners. BUT we like to plan very different aspects of our trips. I plan the dining and activities. He handles the logistics, i.e. lodgings and transit. And we build in time where nothing is planned (or for something to go wrong as inevitably happens when on vacay). It works for us and we dont spend our entire vacation having the, "I dont know, what do you want for dinner?" convo
I love a vacation with a plan I’d vacation with you anytime. My BF wants to sit on the beach the whole time while I like my relaxing paired with some activities.
You've got to have a combo of both. But going into a vacation without anything planned just makes me anxious. Making sure you've got a bunch of good dinner reservations, at a minimum, is a must to avoid spending your whole vacation trying to figure out what to do!
I like to have a general idea of experiences or places I want to visit and try to lay them out so know what can do. Don't like to book too much in advance but like to know what is core to experience.
My partner is a travel planner. I’m a little dreamier in my approach. I love it. He probably hates it. But the whole point of vacation is to let loose for once. Planning and scheduling is for work.
(That said, it’s easier to take it easy and be more unpredictable when you already have all your necessary reservations in place.)
This is the perfect combo, IMO. Two hyper-planners mean there is no joie de vivre — two loose planners mean you’ll never get to the good stuff.
You need someone to carefully plan everything out, and someone to throw chaos into the mix when they see something randomly that’s worth checking out. You’re seeing everything then — what you’re supposed to see, and what you never knew you would see.
Let me speak from experience. I am 100% on your side (and am a planner, as well). My partner is not. At all. Whatsoever. We took a 3 week trip once and I said, great, I'll plan the first two weeks and you can lead (or not lead, as it were) the third week.
The third week was an absolute disaster, and it was comprised mostly of him trying to convince me how aDvEnTurOuS it was to wait for a bus for hours (because he hadn't planned on timing it out!!!) or how Going With The Flow allows you to 1/2
I feel like this is a great personality combo, imho. Maybe keep one day/meal of vacation unplanned so this way you can "figure it out" but if that flops for some reason...the rest of the vacation is still saved.
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