- Sex and the City -Seema Takes On The Samantha Role By Doing Something No One Else Dares To Do
And just like that, Carrie was put in her place.
The Sex and the City revival, And Just Like That, shows the women of the original HBO series (minus Samantha) making a few new friends. This comes with mixed results. Charlotte, in a particularly cringe-worthy move, attempts to make new Black friends to prove to a mom pal that she has other Black friends, while Miranda bonds with her grad school professor over the disappointments and rewards of motherhood. Carrie initially seems to have the easiest time befriending her cool new realtor, Seema, who laments about her relationship woes in a way that would make her fit right in at a brunch with the OG SATC foursome. Yet while Seema and Carrie do become "real" friends (and not just "real estate" friends, as Carrie initially thought) it's not without Seema giving Carrie some healthy perspective on her own carelessness with other people's feelings.
Seema was hired by Carrie to sell the apartment she shared with Big before his Peloton heart attack, and while Carrie doesn't love the tactics Seema wants to use in order to get the home on the market — like, say, removing color in favor of beige, and reinstating that stationary bike — Carrie comes to enjoy Seema's company. The two talk about their love lives, with Seema lamenting that she has been single for quite a while, and has never married. Carrie tells Seema it's good she's "still" putting herself out there, which, um, is not exactly the best thing to say — especially to someone as cool, stylish, and smart as Seema. (FYI, Seema's a catch, available men of NYC.)
This comes back later, when Seema tells Carrie she accidentally cracked the glass on the photo of her and Big. Carrie is understandably upset, but after Seema says she will happily replace the glass and make the photo look brand new, Carrie refuses to accept that. Instead, she criticizes Seema for not seeming upset enough that she hurt her. When Seema apologizes, and insists it was never her intent to dismiss her feelings, Carrie says that doesn't matter — it's how she took it.
Now, Carrie is a grieving widow, and most people would probably tread a bit lighter in this situation — but not Seema, who (in my head, anyway) likely saw a pattern in how Carrie interacts with others. She fires back that Carrie isn't so delicate with her words, either, and directly quotes her line about Seema "still" finding it within herself to look for love. That line wasn't intended to hurt Seema, but it hurt her just the same — and, if we're being honest, wasn't even close to the many, many careless things that Carrie has said to her friends over the years, likely as a way to steer the conversation back to herself.
It was a small moment, but it was like someone finally held a mirror up to Carrie and said, hey, this is what you're like when you're not paying attention, and when other people don't hold you accountable. I mean, Carrie's words to Seema are far more forgivable than that time Carrie demanded Charlotte give her the downpayment to her apartment, or denied the existence of bisexuality.
It's not that Carrie ever has any bad will towards anyone — she just doesn't see how her words, and actions, come across. In fact, the last time I can remember anyone calling out Carrie was the long lost Samantha, after Carrie shamed Sam for hooking up with her delivery man. Sadly, Samantha is icing Carrie out in London, and therefore can't offer a reality check.
It's not that Carrie is a bad person, exactly. It's more that Carrie has main character syndrome, which is usually fine, because she is the main character — or at least was, when the show was still Sex and the City. But this is And Just Like That, a show that blows out the world of SATC and gives us as viewers more perspectives than just the trio we've spent decades with — and, just as importantly, finally offers these characters fresh perspectives on themselves.
In other words? Thank you, Seema. At least someone finally said it.