I will say that there is a sort of excitement that exists in not having it all "figured out" (if that's even a thing ;))  Like you can still follow your dreams, aim high, and strive for more life fulfillment.  I had someone tell me that they had reached all their goals and they were content (after purchasing their home) and that felt sad to me in a way.  As if growth ended in her mid 30's. And thank you... I've got 6 more months to have it all figured out! 

It is funny isn’t it — how we expected to sort of have it all figured out by now. Things definitely feel more up in the air than I expected, but I think that’s also because of the world we live in today. Our ‘90s perception of things allowed us to think everything was pretty stable and figured out (and, thus, life would be easy to figure out), and the 2000s (and 2010s and 2020s) kinda threw that out the window. We feel the instability more, I think. 

Yeah, that fulfillment is in some ways enviable (imagine feeling secure!), but, as you say, in other ways, underwhelming. There’s so much more ahead!

When you were younger did you have an idea of what people were like at 30? 40? For instance, I remember thinking women who were 30 were SO grown up and had their shit together... Then I hit 30 and realized what a joke that was. If you had an image of what life looked like at a certain age, are you the person that you imagined  at your current age? 

I am hitting a milestone birthday this year and I'm definitely not what I imagined a woman my age would be. Yes, I have a career and a spouse, but I do not "feel" my age or the way I viewed women my age when I was younger.  

Am I alone in this? Does this make me immature or delusional? Do I need to call my therapist? And listen, I definitely don't feel 25, but I just thought I'd feel differently at this age. 

Are you the person you imagined people your age to be?