When Stephanie first popped up on the new season of 90 Day Fiancé, I couldn’t quite put my finger on why she felt so familiar. And then, while chatting about her odd behavior with a coworker, we realized it was because Stephanie from 90 Day is not the only reality star who brought some chaotic cougar energy to our TV screens over the past year. Last February, a new Netflix show made its debut, and one of its major players has major Stephanie vibes.

The past 11 months or so have been a total whirlwind, so you can be forgiven if you forgot that Love Is Blind actually premiered less than a year ago. The romance series totally changed the game when it started talking about ~pods~ way before the rest of us singles scrambled to find someone to quarantine with. On the show, participants were encouraged to discover if love truly is blind by getting engaged to someone they’d only ever spoken to from the other side of a wall and never actually met in person.

Enter Jessica, 34, a grown ass woman looking for a grown ass man to settle down with. Against her better judgment, she ended up in a relationship with someone a decade younger than her, and she simply could not see past that age difference. After all, when she’s 40, he’ll only be 30! And when she’s 50, he’ll be 40! And when she’s 75, he’ll be 65! It’s a scandal!