My Friend Stopped Returning My Texts & I Don't Know What To Do

- Very Serious: An Advice Column By Kelly Conaboy -
My Friend Stopped Returning My Texts & I Don't Know What To Do

Kelly Conaboy is writing an advice column for Dipp readers. It's going to be very serious. So serious, in fact, we named it Very Serious: An Advice Column by Kelly Conaboy. Just email her at with whatever's bothering you and each week, Kelly will solve one lucky reader's biggest problem. You can read all of Kelly's excellent advice here.

Dear Kelly,

I have a friend who moved a few hours away with her husband once they had a kid. We weren’t super close but we talked a lot while she lived here, and a bit once she moved away (about a year ago), but in the past few months she (and her husband) haven’t responded to any of my texts. I’ve sent three over the past five months, two to her and one to both of them. Are we not friends anymore?



Hi Sue,

While this question is perhaps more heart-wrenching than my usual fare, I’m glad you came to me with it. In situations like this with friends, I can always share the perspective of someone who is terrible at keeping up communication. “Maybe they saw the text and then completely forget they ever read it,” I can offer. “Maybe they’re overwhelmed even though their life is relatively very easy, and the thought of responding to your email at that moment was too much to bear, and then they forgot.” Or, “Maybe they waited too long and now they want to respond, but responding at this point would be awkward.” Or, “Maybe they were walking their dog?”

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