Should I Give My Brother The Good Bathroom?

- Very Serious: An Advice Column By Kelly Conaboy -
Should I Give My Brother The Good Bathroom?

Kelly Conaboy is writing an advice column for Dipp readers. It's going to be very serious. So serious, in fact, we named it Very Serious: An Advice Column by Kelly Conaboy. Just email her at with whatever's bothering you and each week, Kelly will solve one lucky reader's biggest problem. You can read all of Kelly's excellent advice here.

Dear Kelly,

My brother and his new wife are coming to visit my mom’s house around Thanksgiving. For years, the unspoken arrangement between my brother and I is that I have taken over the upstairs bathroom while he uses the downstairs one for showering, etc. The downstairs bathroom is definitely nicer and more recently renovated, but the upstairs bathroom has two sinks and is obviously more private. Should I clear out of “my” bathroom and give it to the newlyweds?




Oh my god — I love that we’re talking about Thanksgiving. I love Thanksgiving. Eating, drinking, navigating dredged up decades-long family drama, the parade. Watching a Gossip Girl Thanksgiving episode with your brother (my brother) (this is what I do). It is one of my favorite times of the year. Luckily for you, Jenna, I believe that makes me uniquely qualified to consult on your bathroom situation.

I am the oldest of my siblings. I have two brothers. At my parents’ house, I moved out first and at that point my youngest brother took my room; I was given his (worse) room. The middle brother moved out and his room was turned into a guest room, which means it got nicer. Now when we’re all home, I get the worst room, and my brothers get the good rooms. Jenna, is this fair? I know this isn’t about me, but — can you write a note to my family telling them that it’s not?

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