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I have to go to my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding this summer and I know I’m going to be asked to be in family photos. I love him and his family, but I don’t know if we’re going to be together forever, and I don’t want to ruin his sister’s photos if we break up. Is there a way to get out of being in the pics?
Oh, Mia. I have been there.
The odd thing about this situation to me is that the family members in charge of orchestrating the photos never seem to understand that this makes those in non-forever-committed relationships uncomfortable. Yes, the optics of the situation may seem unfavorable for the one left out of the photo, and I understand the pressure to be welcoming and inclusive to a family member’s significant other. But I’m not sure many of us in dating-level relationships are particularly eager to be memorialized in family-specific media (unless you are Blair Waldorf when she was dating Lord Marcus Beaton [I’m re-watching the original Gossip Girl]).