What It’s Like To Be A Therapist On ‘Real Housewives’

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What It’s Like To Be A Therapist On ‘Real Housewives’

Longtime fans of The Real Housewives of New York City don’t just remember Alex McCord’s Herman Munster shoes, Kelly Bensimon’s gummy bears, and Jill Zarin’s “hiiiii” heard round the world, we also remember an unlikely fan-favorite: Bethenny Frankel’s therapist Dr. Xavier Amador.

On her spinoff show Bethenny Ever After, Amador was heavily featured, talking to the Housewives OG about her marriage, her relationship with her parents, and her career. He went on to appear in RHONY when Frankel rejoined the show for Season 7. But, when Frankel showed up in Season 11 of the show with a new counselor, fans only had one thing to say: Where’s Dr. Amador?

“I am not aware I had fans!” Dr. Amador tells me via email. Though he admits he was “regularly approached by fans of the show who recognized me.”

Therapy sessions are shown often throughout the Real Housewives franchise now, but back in 2010 when Frankel and Amador first appeared together, the trend was just kicking off.

“My first thought was that I didn’t want to harm the psychotherapy,” Amador says of being approached about filming his sessions with Frankel. “I asked Bethenny and her producers that we would not be interfered with, that we would not do anything for the cameras and instead focus on the work she was doing in therapy.”

Naturally, this is what any therapist would want if they were asked to appear on a reality TV show starring women with a flair for the dramatic. Dr. Ken Ballard, who regularly appears on The Real Housewives of Potomac and previously on Married to Medicine, says he was “apprehensive” about being filmed.

Dr. Ballard on Real Housewives of Potomac
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