With that said, I have been in one of those friendships. I think a lot of times it comes from the other person's insecurities and traumas. It's hard because you gotta do what's best for you, but you also want to be sensitive to them. I think the most important thing is just honesty. I wish the RHOC ladies would do that with each other. I can't say Emily is the best means for mending friendships. 

It's interesting, because I really don't think this is what's happening with Shannon/Gina. I think they're making it seem like that, and it's very easy to say she's jealous and not happy for "winning Gina." But I do see a friend in Shannon when Gina needed it the most. Instead of all the chatter behind her back, and the fights to come next week, why not talk to her privately and be like, "Hey, you're kinda hurting my feelings and this is how I feel."???

I've always been skeptical of Shannon. I do think that for so long, she has been the one who has struggled and suffered, that she sort of enjoys seeing someone else go through it. It's like she's climbed a rung in the happiness ladder, compared to everyone else. I don't know, like you, I don't love it. 

During last night's RHOC, I found myself being a little triggered by the dynamic between Shannon and Gina. When they gave us flashbacks of Gina confiding in an empathetic Shannon, I was like "oh how nice", and then Gina mentioned how maybe Shannon liked when Gina was helpless, or in a "rock bottom" sort of place. And I have been Gina. 

When I was in dark, sad place, I had a friendship that I thought was a forever friendship. And then I started to work on myself, and grow, become more positive, and things just started looking up for me. And that is when the unexpected happened. She started getting weird with me, and it hit me, she only liked being my friend because I made her feel about her sad life. And without my stuff, she had to kind of sit and reflect and focus on herself. 

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