Type A and chill work great together. Introverted and extroverted work great together. But I’m with everyone else in that priorities need to align.

I do, however, think similar interests are important. That’s not to say you have to do everything your SO does, but you have to be able to find fun in the same things. Some distance is good in a relationship, but it’s also great to try to find fun in what your SO finds to be fun. You might learn something new!

I do. But! You have to have some core things in common. You can't have opposite opinions when it comes to: kids and finances. "But what about politics and religion!" you say. Well, it depends. If the couple are open-minded and like learning and come from a place of spirited debate without judgement or the desire to change the other, than I think you can be opposite in those categories. I've seen it work and frankly, it looks like a lot of fun. (Not for me, I hate debating.) But I find that.. 1/2

I think it can work! My husband and I are very different -- he's a lot more outgoing/ a lot less uptight than I am. There are times where it absolutely drives me crazy, but there are times where I'm so grateful that he can get me out of my comfort zone and make me laugh/be silly. I think there's so much nuance in relationships, that I definitely wouldn't write one off just because the two are so "different."

I feel like it all depends on what exactly is opposite. You can have opposite vibes that complement each other, but your priorities do have to be in sync. Like, if you're an introvert, and your partner is an extrovert, that's something that can work itself out, or even be a positive. But if you're an introvert that wants to stay in every weekend, and they're an extrovert that wants to party 3x per week, then you're going to have problems. 

My husband and I were 18 when we met. I don’t think we started as opposites but 9 yrs later we’ve changed and grown into very different people. 

Laid back, mature,  provider instincts vs. fun loving, emotionally driven, wild child. Sounds chaotic, but we bring out the best in each other. 

It’s about having enough respect for your partner to communicate honestly about your wants and needs and give them space to flourish as their own person. 

He encourages me to follow my dreams; I keep him young.

This is something that I think about all the time. I know that opposites attract because I have seen it and lived it. I dated someone in my early 20's (can't believe I can say that now 👵) and we just vibed. We were very different, like our personalities. He was super chill and laid back, quieter than me, very into school and I, well, I never stop talking and I don't think I would classify myself as chill. And it was fine. Then as the relationship went on, what brought us together, and what we liked about each other, kind of drove us apart. It became something I resented in him. I hated how quiet he was, how he was so laid back. And I think he just didn't understand anything about me because it was just so different than him. 

But then I see relationships with people who seem to be polar opposites and they make it work (Lisa Rinna/Harry Hamlin, John Legend/Chrissy Teigen, Blake Shelton/Gwen Stefani), and they all seem so in love and happy. Ofc, they have their moments but I find it so interesting. 

Opposites Attract, But Do They Work?