The most recent episodes of The Real Housewives of New York City and Beverly Hills featured an aspect that has always been there, but that is now shown in a new light: white women who just don’t get it. I mean, really, isn’t that what these two shows have been all about all along? But, with both series’ casts becoming more diverse, naturally, they have begun to feature conversations about race.

The situations with Luann de Lesseps and Eboni K. Williams on RHONY and Crystal Kung Minkoff and Sutton Stracke on RHOBH are happening simultaneously, and it's no coincidence – New York having its first Black Housewife and Beverly Hills having its first Asian Housewife (and first Black Housewife on only her second season) has meant both shows have similar storylines.

And these storylines, or rather, conversations, are examples of a larger issue in the world: how white people can react to non-white people expressing their feelings. While Luann and Sutton might have thought, “Why is this happening to me? I’m not racist,” the fact that the same exact thing happened to both of them speaks volumes.

On RHONY, a conversation about race arose when Luann and Eboni got into an argument about whether education plays a role in if you should say the word “dick” at the dinner table — but the issue at hand and whose side was right doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that when things got heated, Luann called Eboni “angry.” Eboni took offense because of the stereotype of the “angry Black woman” and how that minimizes Black women’s ability to express their feelings.